We asked Reddit. You answered. Over 95,000 of you showed up to r/SexToys to answer one simple question: what’s the one toy you secretly want to try?
The responses were honest, funny, and surprisingly consistent. Turns out men pretty much want the same things. And the reasons they haven't tried them yet are almost always the same too.
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Here's what we learned.
The wish list
A few toys came up again and again with serious conviction.
Sex machines dominated the conversation. Men know these exist, they're curious, and they want in. The fantasy is straightforward: hands-free, consistent, relentless. The reality? These things are expensive and bulky. Price and storage came up in almost every comment. One guy put it perfectly: "I want a fucking machine. A nice one. These are just so expensive — something else always eats up my hobby budget."
If you've had your eye on one, the Lovense Sex Machine is where to start. App-controlled, adjustable speed and depth, and a lot more discreet than the industrial alternatives the thread was dreaming about.
Pegging kits generated the most conversation in the entire thread — and the most honest one. Men are curious. Some are already hinting to their partners. The barrier isn't the toy itself, it's the conversation. How do you bring it up? What if she says no? What if she says yes and then changes her mind? This is less about gear and more about trust, timing, and finding the right words.
When you're ready to take the plunge, the Piccolo Pegging Kit is a great place to start — everything you need in one package, sized for beginners.
Prostate massagers came up constantly, usually from men who'd never tried anal play before. The interest is real — the nerves are real too. One commenter captured it simply: "Plug and if that goes well, a trusting prostate massager." That word — trusting — says everything. This is about feeling safe enough to explore.
The Expand Plug is designed exactly for this journey — body-safe, beginner-friendly, and built to grow with your comfort level.
The wand got a shoutout with serious conviction and three words: "Simple, yet divine." Sometimes the classics earn their reputation. The Le Wand Hoop is the one we carry — versatile, powerful, and genuinely worth it.
The blowjob machine got 19 upvotes and a lot of laughing emojis — but the interest underneath the humour was real. The Keon Feel Stroker Combo is the serious answer to that joke. App-controlled, syncs to content, and genuinely delivers on what the thread was imagining.
Male vibrators came up several times — men who'd read about them, looked at prices, and quietly closed the tab. The Men Wand is the entry point worth taking seriously. Powerful, designed specifically for male anatomy, and one of those purchases men consistently say they wish they'd made sooner.
Cock pumps and cock rings made the list too — lower barrier, more accessible price point, still somehow sitting on the "haven't gotten around to it" pile. The Power Pump Pro is straightforward, effective, and a genuinely good starting point if you've been curious about pumping. And if you haven't tried a cock ring yet — they might be the most underrated toy on this entire list. Harder, fuller, longer lasting, and a genuine confidence boost for under $20. Explore the full cock ring collection here.
Other toys that caught men’s attention
The thread went even further than the main wish list. A few more toys that caught men’s attention:
Chastity cages — more interest than you’d expect, often paired with the idea of orgasm control and power play.
Milking machines — the fantasy of forced multiple orgasms came up repeatedly. Price and space are the barriers.
Male torso sex dolls — realistic and full-body options. The main hesitation was storage and how a partner might react.
Ovipositor / alien egg depositor toys — a niche but enthusiastic corner of the thread. Delightfully fantastical.
Blowjob machines — came up with humour but genuine interest underneath.
Clone-A-Willy kits — the idea of a custom dildo molded from yourself. Mixed reviews on the end result held people back.
E-stim (electrostimulation) — curious interest, particularly with butt plug attachments.
The full wish list is longer than anyone expected. Turns out men are a lot more curious than the world gives them credit for.
What's actually holding men back
This is where it gets interesting. It's almost never about not wanting to try something. It's one of three things:
Price. The toys men are most curious about cost real money. When something feels indulgent or unfamiliar, it's hard to justify the spend — especially without anyone to tell you it's worth it. That's exactly why we offer payment plans. You shouldn't have to wait until the stars align financially to explore what you actually want.
Privacy. Don't live alone. Partner might find it. No good place to store it. Discretion matters more than most people admit — which is why everything from Hello Sailor ships in plain packaging with inconspicuous billing.
Not knowing where to start. A lot of the comments weren't just "I want this" — they were "I want this but I've never tried anything like it before." The first step into new territory is the hardest one. Especially without a trusted guide.
Why this matters
We built Hello Sailor because this gap exists. Men are curious. Men are ready. They just need a place that takes them seriously — no judgment, no overwhelm, no sketchy checkout process.
Whether you're starting with something small and building from there, or you've had your eye on something specific for a while — we've got you.
Chart new waters. Explore without limits.